It’s time for a bit of a rant, but I think it’s something that doesn’t get said enough.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when I share how proud I am of myself and my progress and someone responds with, “But…you were always skinny.” Or if I’m showing someone my “before” photo and they say “But…you still weren’t fat.” I’m definitely not bragging in either situation and I don’t bring it up often. But sometimes I just want to share my excitement and get some support! How come it’s okay for a formerly overweight girl to post a before photo and get hundreds of comments of encouragement, but someone’s progress is smaller it goes unrecognized? I know that I should be proud of my own accomplishments and not need that recognition. And that’s all fine and good because I do this for myself. But sometimes, it would be nice! I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way.
This brings me to another related pet peeve. And I think that all women who focus on fitness and nutrition probably get this. When I’m out and refuse to get dessert or eat something unhealthy, without fail, at least one person will make a comment. They’ll ask “Why do you need to diet? You’re so thin” or they might even go as far as to hint towards an eating disorder. First of all, I don’t diet, and I don’t think anyone should. I just try to eat healthy. And I do still indulge at least once a week. But if I were to indulge everytime someone said “It’s just one night,” I wouldn’t be so thin and I definitely wouldn’t be healthy.
And this goes both ways. There are plenty of people who work their asses off and don’t see results. Generally, this means they may not be doing something right (i.e.: too much cardio and not enough strength training), but other times it can be due to a medical condition that drastically slows metabolism. Either way, seeing someone who is overweight does not mean that they’re lazy! They could be working out every day while some thin girls don’t work out at all. You just never know!
Basically, don’t judge anyone else’s progress. Support everyone. Keep it positive.